Benefits of DNA testing

Do you ever wonder how your DNA works? Are you curious to know where your ancestors originated from and which ethnicity you belong? Are you lactose intolerance or are you allergic to dust, egg, shellfish and dairy products? One good news! You do not need to go and see a doctor to know this essential information. All you need is a swab to collect your specimen sample, place it into a tube, send it back to the lab and wait for your results. No blood or needles involved! Yes! It’s that easy and convenient.

I have been curious to know what my DNA will say about me. I’ve been longing to take one, but I always back off due to the price or doubts. Fortunately, I found the one that I can trust. I took my first DNA test with CIRCLE DNA. They offer a pretty reasonable price with a lot of information included in my kit. The process was easy, from purchasing, receiving, taking my saliva sample, returning it and waiting for the results. Things went smoothly.

ABOUT CIRCLE DNA

It was founded in 2014 and based in Hong Kong. There are about ten global offices up to this day. Their goal is to let people be aware of their possible cancer or health risks, eating according to our genes, exploring our lifestyles and many more.

There are three types of packages you can pick. Vital (Diet & Fitness), Health (Cancer) and Family Planning packages. They can be purchased separately, and it can also be purchased as a whole, Premium Bundle. Prices range from USD 189 - USD 629. The reports will usually be ready to view within 18 working days and can easily access through their app, both compatible with Android and IOS phones.

I have purchased a DNA test ”Vital” package as I wanted to know more about my diet, fitness and health. I am entirely pleased with the results, including the good and bad ones. I have finally understood why am I always bloated after consuming flour-based products such as wheat bread, noodles and pasta. That is because I have high sensitivity in gluten products. I have also found out that my risk of getting injuries from working out is high. All the information has helped me understand what I needed to do when I’m exercising. Moreover, I am more aware of my health now, and I’m glad that I was able to get my DNA results done.

Check out their website to know more - CIRCLE DNA

WHAT WILL YOU KNOW

What you will know will be based on which package you have purchased.

(This information is based as of October 2019)

VITAL DNA TEST - 125+ reports within 14 categories

You will know about - Diet, Nutrition, Sports and Fitness, Stress & Sleep, Ancestry, Behavioural, Personality, Gender, Success and Physical Traits, Skin, Music and Dance, Pollution and Well-Being.

Also included in the package - 30 minutes complimentary consultation with a health coach, mobile and PDF reports.

Price - USD 189

HEALTH DNA TEST - 115+ reports within 4 categories

You will know about - Cancer Screening, Dementia and Brain Health, Disease Risk and Common Health Risks.

Also included in the package - 30 minutes complimentary consultation with a genetic counsellor, mobile and PDF reports.

Price - USD 509

FAMILY PLANNING DNA TEST - 155+ reports within 1 category

You will know about - Family Planning reports

Also included in the package - 30 minutes complimentary consultation with a genetic counsellor, mobile and PDF reports.

Price - USD 509

PREMIUM BUNDLE DNA TEST - 500+ reports within 20 categories

You will know about - All the 20 categories across Vital, Health and Family Planning DNA tests including Drug Response

Also included in the package - 30 minutes complimentary consultation with a health coach and 30 minutes complimentary consultation with a genetic counsellor, mobile and PDF reports.

Price - USD 629

HOW DOES IT WORK?

After purchasing your kit, there are 3 easy steps to follow.

STEP 1 - ACTIVATE YOUR KIT

After opening, you must register your kit first by first downloading CIRCLE DNA app or scan the QR code.

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STEP 2 - COLLECT SAMPLE

In this step, you will need to collect your sample. But before you do that, make sure that you didn’t eat, drink, chew gum or smoke. If you do, you have to wait for 30 minutes before collecting your sample. Then, put your sample from the swab in the test tube provided.

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Watch the video below to show you how it is done.

STEP 3 - RETURN SAMPLE

Once you are done placing your sample in the test tube, you must store it in a specimen bag provided. Shut it tightly and place the bag inside the box. Then, put it the return bag or go to the delivery office to ship back your sample.

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BENEFITS OF DNA TESTING

There are plenty of benefits knowing your DNA. It could detect early signs of serious health disease risks. It could help with your lifestyles and how to eat promptly too.

Here are eight positive things about DNA testing:

• EARLY DETECTION

• KNOWING YOUR POTENTIAL HEALTH RISKS

• HELP TO MAKE GOOD LIFESTYLE CHOICES

• EATING PROPERLY

• KNOWING YOUR CANCER RISK

• BETTER FAMILY PLANNING

• LEARNING AND UNDERSTANDING YOUR FAMILY HISTORY

• GETTING TO KNOW YOUR ALLERGIES

THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE TAKING YOUR DNA TEST

I try to avoid to be biased, so I would like to include some things to know before taking DNA testing - the disadvantages, for short.

Here are the four things to know before getting your DNA test done:

• MAY CAUSE ANXIETY AND STRESS

• TESTING IS ONLY FOR KNOWING AND PREVENTING, NOT FOR CURING

• SOME REPORTS MAY NOT BE 100% ACCURATE

• IT CAN BE EXPENSIVE

WHY DID I DECIDE TO TAKE ONE

Since late 2018, I’ve been more health-conscious. However, I still feel like something is still missing. I am not very sure if I am eating the right food and doing the right workouts. Then, I happen to see CIRCLE DNA advertisements on Facebook and Instagram. They’re everywhere whenever I’m browsing, and quite frankly, it was Vanness Wu, an endorser of the product, who had caught my full attention.

But what exactly made my purchase was the 500+ reports that we will be receiving, that is for Premium Bundle package. I only purchased the Vital as I wanted to see how relevant the results would be and honestly, the premium bundle was out of budget for me.

MY DNA RESULTS

Since I took the Vital DNA package, my results were mainly focusing on my diet, nutrition and fitness journey. I want to share some of the information included in my reports. I can view my reports through my mobile via CIRCLE app, and they have also sent me a PDF copy of my reports. However, the mobile app has more information to show. So here go my results…

ANCESTRY

My DNA result tells me that I’m definitely and 100% Asian! I’m not very surprised to know that but what I’m pleased about is that I was right about guessing that I am a Han Chinese. I have that “I knew it” moment while I was reading my result. But which Asian side do I belong? The answer is East Asian. This also means that I may have teeny bits of Mongolian blood too. Remember the Genghis Khan war? If you know about it, need I say much? If you don't? Google it!

DIET

There are 18 results in this part - Alcohol, Caffeine, Theophylline, Fat, Carbohydrate, Salt, Spice and Taste Sensitivity, Coeliac Predisposition, Lactose Intolerance, Sweet Tooth, Weight Regain, Detox Needs and Egg, Milk and Dairy, Peanut and Seafood Allergies.

I have ‘higher sensitivity’ on Alcohol, Salt, Coeliac Predisposition (Gluten), Spice and Taste. Genetically, I couldn’t handle alcohol. However, I was once an alcoholic; my intolerance for alcohol has improved. I don’t drink as often now, and I can feel that yes, I am sensitive to alcohol. I eat a lot of salty food so I need to avoid that whenever I can. I also cannot handle spicy food, but I love eating them. I will suffer from red lips and painful tongue, but I still find spicy food yummy nonetheless. I am also sensitive to gluten products such as wheat products, noodles, beer and soy sauce. It is no wonder why I get so bloated so often whenever I eat noodles, bread and drink beer. Fortunately, I can swap them with rice crackers, vermicelli, wine and herbs spices.

I tested ‘normal sensitivity’ on Caffeine, Tea, Fat, Carbohydrate and Sweet Sensitivity. I am also ‘not likely’ allergic to Egg, Milk and Dairy, Peanut and Seafood. However, I get itchy or spots whenever I eat shrimp, clams and some nuts. That is due to my hives and eczema.

I am ‘likely intolerant’ in Lactose. Now, this is very accurate as I do get an upset stomach after drinking milk or any food with high milk ingredient. The good side is I can swap cow’s milk to soy milk, butter to olive oil, sorbet instead of ice cream, yoghurt to tofu and dark chocolate instead of milk chocolate.

NUTRITION

There are 20 results in this part - Antioxidants, Calcium, Folic Acid, Iodine, Iron, Magnesium, Omega-3, Phosphorus, Vitamin A, B12, B2, B6, C, D and E, Selenium and Zinc.

I have ‘higher needs’ on Folic Acid, Iodine, Omega-3 (ALA), Vitamin B12 and Vitamin B6. I am lack of water-soluble vitamin, and the bad news is that our body doesn’t store folic acid. Therefore, we need actually to eat them to have them in our body system. I need to consume more kai lan, Chinese cabbage, beans, asparagus, mango and lentils. I need to eat more canned tuna, oysters, eggs, seaweed and yoghurt to increase my Iodine substance. I am also low on Omega-3 (ALA). I need to eat more plant-based fatty acid such as walnuts, edamame, kidney beans, flaxseed and chia seeds. As for vitamins, I lack B12 and B6, which are both water-soluble vitamin. I need to eat more chicken breast, yoghurt, beef liver and tenderloin, sardines, tuna, avocado and mackerel.

On the other hand, I have ‘normal needs’ for the rest of the nutrition categories.

WELL-BEING

There are 7 results in this part - Appetite Control, Bone Mineral Density, Inflammatory and Metabolic Response, Life Longevity, Tendency for Mosquito Bites and Stress Fracture Risk.

I tested 'normal' and 'average risk' in those categories. However, I think I should be ‘higher tendency' for Mosquito Bites as I do get a lot of bites when I am outdoor and especially when I go hiking or when I step in a garden or farm.

STRESS AND SLEEP

There are 8 results in this part - Sleep Apnoea Risk, Sleep Depth, Duration, Movement, Quality and Time, Stress-Induced Obesity and Stress Tolerance.

Apparently, I am a 'warrior' for Stress Tolerance. I have to agree with that as I don’t back down on any stress. I may look fragile, but I’m a lot stronger than I look. I am also an average sleeper which means I only need to sleep for 7-8 hours every day to survive the day. It’s true as I feel super tired when I sleep longer than 9 hours. I am at 'average risk' for the rest of the stress and sleep categories.

POLLUTION

There are 5 results in this part - Dust Allergy, Pesticide, Automobile Pollution, Environmental Pollution and Second-Hand Smoke Sensitivity.

I have ‘higher sensitivity” to Dust Allergy and Automobile Pollution. Now that explains why I always tend to sneeze whenever it’s dusty, or my nose seems always to feel itchy. I tested ‘normal sensitivity’ in the other pollution three categories.

SKIN

There are 14 results in this part - Skin Age, Acne, Glycation, Oxidative Stress, Wrinkle Formation, Keloid Scars, Skin Photoaging, Hyperpigmentation and Sunburn Risks, Cellulite Formation, Stretch Marks, Skin Bruising Tendency, Skin Hydration and Skin Lightening Ability.

I have 'higher risk' on Cellulite And Wrinkle Formation. I need to be mindful not leave my fats unattended. Either I transform them into muscles, or I try to lose them. As for Wrinkle, it’s in my genes as I’ve seen it in my mother and aunts. However, my Skin Age is young looking so at least there’s still good news. I tested 'average risk' and 'normal' for the rest of the skin categories.

SPORTS AND FITNESS

There are 11 results in this part - Risk of Achilles Tendon Injury, Blood Flow, Body Composition, Endurance Capacity, Heart Rate Response to Exercise, Injury Risk, Risk of Anterior Cruciate Ligament Rupture, Oxygen and Recovery Efficiency, Power Capacity and Strength Profile.

My Endurance Capacity is high, which means I can tolerate intense workouts. However, I am at 'higher risk' for Injuries, and my heart rate can go very fast when I do an intense workout. I notice that because my right knee feels tight each time I workout, but that doesn’t happen when I do proper stretching beforehand. My level of Recovery is 'low'. It’s true as it takes me usually 2-4 days or sometimes even up to 1 week to fully recover my body.

SUCCESS TRAITS

There are 9 results in this part - Intelligence Quotient (IQ), Emotional Quotient (EQ), Entrepreneurship Tendency (AQ), Creativity, Educational Attainment, Information Processing Power, Language Ability, Mathematical and Memory Skills.

I am 'gifted' in Creativity. I am super glad to know that as I do have a creative mind and most of my ideas come from my mind. I have a ‘high’ Educational Attainment. It’s true because I always wanted to finish my studies and earn a college degree and indeed I made it happen. My Language Ability and Mathematical Skills are excellent. I would agree with the language part but Maths, really? I find it hard to believe that. I tested all ‘normal' for the rest of the success categories. However, I was hoping I would get at least an excellent, if not gifted for Memory Skills. I can remember every detail, especially of those people, who fail to notice.

MUSIC AND DANCE

There are 3 results in this part - Dancing Ability, Musical Ability and Perfect Pitch.

Both Dancing and Musical Abilities are 'normal'. However, I feel like it should be gifted as I do love to perform and not to brag about it, but I know I can move well. However, this is base on my genetics, and none of my family members dances or are in the music industry. I didn’t know I can dance until my first dancing teacher picked me. I was selected to perform in an outside school event. Then, I have discovered my passion for dancing and I’ve been performing since then. Before finishing high school, my teachers and friends thought I would pursue dancing, but then things went differently. I choose a different path. I still love dancing. However, my life goals change as I get older.

As for Perfect Pitch, I’m 'less likely' perfect, which didn’t come as a surprise because I know i’m not gifted in singing. I love to sing, though, and I am not afraid to perform. I have performed many times in front of many people. I embrace those stage frights.

PERSONALITY TRAITS

There are 5 results in this part - Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Neuroticism and Openness.

I am 'likely' compassionate and helpful, organized and disciplined, reserved and reflective. I am 'likely balanced' for confident and calm and sensitive and concerned. Finally, I am 'likely' pragmatic and consistent. Now I 100% agree with all these. I am exactly what my DNA says I am. I was all smiley while I was reading this part. This is definitely my turf.

BEHAVIOURAL TRAITS

There are 5 results in this part - Alcohol Addiction, Altruism, Food Addiction, Obsessions with Washing and Cleaning and Smoking Addiction.

Food Addiction is 'more likely'. It’s 100% true as I love food and food is my way of surviving the day apart from sleep and my tea, food is the most important to me. While I am 'less likely' in Smoking Addiction, Obsessions with Washing/ Cleaning, Altruism and Alcohol Addiction. I sort of disagree with me being 'less likely' for Alcohol Addiction as I was once an alcoholic. However, I have changed my lifestyle. In a way, my DNA is telling me that being alcoholic is not in my blood; it was just a short phase in my life.

PHYSICAL TRAITS

There are 13 results in this part - Facial and Body Hair, Body Odour, Ear Protrusion, Ear Wax Type, Eye and Hair Colour, Pain and Smell Sensitivity, Photic Sneeze Reflex, Sweat Tendency, Persistent Thinness, Waist Circumference and Premature White Hair.

I mostly tested 'likely normal' for most categories. However, I was shocked to know that my Eye Colour is 'likely brown'. I was like, “Hold on, aren’t my eyes black?”. Well, I guess not. I am more concerned with Premature White Hair as I tested ‘likely” which means I may grow grey hair before my 50s just like my mother. This is not good. I need to find some ways to prevent it from happening so early.

GENDER TRAITS

There are 3 results in this part - Breast Size, Female Sex Hormone Levels and Infidelity.

As for the Breast Size, I’m 'likely average', which means I have the average-sized pair of breasts. So when you find me with a pair of large breasts, it’s either I’m pregnant, or I had a boob job. My Hormones Levels are 'likely normal', just like the majority of the female population all around the world. My Infidelity is a bit odd. The test says that I’m 'less likely' loyal. I would say I am 50/ 50 on this. Yes, because I do have a green mind, but I have never cheated in my life. False, because I’ve always been loyal and still is up to this day. My DNA may say that I’m 'unlikely loyal', but I’m good at controlling too.

OVERALL EXPERIENCE

As mention to how pleased I was when I first got my results and apart from that, I feel more educated since reading the reports. The reports were plenty of information, and it took me a while to finish reading them all and to also understand each component.

I became more driven to have a better lifestyle and to watch out what I eat, most importantly. I am nearly 29 and soon will enter number 30. I am not getting any younger, and my immune system is not as strong as when I was younger. However, I believe that I can change and prevent whatever risks that I have.

Feel free to leave a comment for any questions or tips you may want to ask. I will be more than happy to help.

Yours Truly,

Michelle Chan

My Bodyweight Story

Losing weight for me is easier than gaining weight. In 28 years, I’ve transformed from being thin to chubby to skinny again and finally to current me now. I’ve been body shamed and have been told that I’m too thin and weak or I got fat.

In this blog, I’m writing about my experience with my weight, body changes, humiliation and struggles to lose and gain weight.

I have to gain weight to save myself when I was in my teenage years. I was very underweight and almost too weak to do much physical stuff. Then, I gained weight and got chubby. I try to change my weight and body appearance due to body shaming and self-insecurities. I want to share my bodyweight journey and ways to cope with body shaming and loving the body that was created for us.

FIRST OF, LET’S TALK ABOUT THE BODY SHAMING

I was a skinny child back then so a lot of my schoolmates used to teased me and even called me a 'broomstick'. I wasn't keen on food as a child. I love eating a lot of sugar, and I eat very little food, and I eat very slowly too. It's super hard for me to gain weight. I was just too thin for my size.

The skinny me before

When I moved to Hong Kong, that is when I started to gain weight. I gained about 15kg very quickly. I'm not sure why I gained so much weight, but I believe it's due to my excess consumption in junk food, and I was in my adolescent years. Anyways I became chubby after a year since moving to Hong Kong. I was told that I was too fat by my ex-boyfriend, so after some time, I started dieting and completely stopped eating rice. I grew up eating rice my whole life and getting rid of rice made me lose weight drastically. I became underweight in less than a year after I became chubby. The diet completely ruins my growth. I would've grown much taller if I didn't do dieting in such a young age.

I was again body-shamed for gaining a bit of weight when I was between 24-25 years old. I was merely happy, and I was in a very healthy relationship, but people don't approve of my size again. I started working out not because of what people say entirely. Although I was affected by people's words so, in a way, they were one of the reasons why I strive myself to get fit. It is also because I couldn't fit in my shorts and jeans anymore and I couldn't afford to buy new pairs so I workout instead of focusing on dieting.

Dieting doesn't go a hundred percent well with my body type. I am aware that dieting works for other people, but unfortunately, dieting does not work fully well with me. I would say dieting may only work for about 40% on me. When I do dieting, my body does reflect very quickly but very unhealthily too. My metabolism affects my body when I do dieting. I only do dieting when it is necessary; otherwise, I would continue to eatl the food I usually eat. I believe to be healthy, we all need greens, grains, proteins and even carbs and fats to make our body well-balanced.

I was body shamed more than a few occasions. I was hurt, and I took it personally. However, I learned to accept myself and not to let those judgemental words dictate me with my weight. As long as I am happy with my body, then no one should make me feel horrible. How did I do that? Well, the answer is simple, yet it took me a lot of effort to finally surpass it.

My chubby years

Whenever I look at myself in the mirror, I focus on the good deeds that I have done to myself and to others too. Then, I started to feel good about myself. Eventually, I learned to love my baby fats, and I accepted my flaws. I was not born with a nice pair of bums, pairs of long legs and balanced torso. You see my bums were flat, I got short legs, and I got two prominent ribs. These are not perfect, but I don't believe in perfection.

However, I do think that we can change that. I can't change the fact that I got short legs so; instead, I try to shape it up by doing some cardio exercises and legs workout such as lunges, squats and burpees. My bums were flat, so I do a lot of squats, lunges, pilates and yoga exercises. Unfortunately for my ribs, there is nothing much I can do, unless of course I remove them which is not very possible.

I have achieved so much since I started working out. I feel a lot healthier and stronger. I use all those criticisms as a way to redeem myself and to help myself love my body a lot better.

As of me in 2019

WHEN I STARTED GAINING WEIGHT

I have been skinny my whole life until I moved to Hong Kong when I was 13. I began to gain weight and eventually, I became chubby. From 44kg, I became 56kg in one year. How did that happen? For starters, I was more exposed to food when I move here as my parents allowed to hang out after school since I started high school. My go-to place is McDonald's. Imagine me eating every day in McDonald's, downing those junk food every day for a year. Of course, I would gain a lot of weight. Anybody would.

Since I gained weight, an ex-boyfriend of mine started body-shaming me, telling me that I've gone too fat so I need to go on a diet. He manipulated me to stop eating rice and to eat less instead of encouraging me to stop eating junk food. I was foolish enough to listen to that boy. Anyways, I lost about 18kg! I became 38kg. How did I know that? Well, we had this yearly check-up at school, and the nurse weighed me and told me that my BMI is too low and I am beyond underweight for my age, I was nearly 17 then. After learning, I started to quit dieting, and all I want to do is to gain more weight as I am already beginning to feel weak physically and mentally affecting me. It is so hard to get back on track in eating. My appetite had changed and was very low too. I can only consume a few spoonfuls of food. There were times that I would force myself to eat more, and I would feel like I need to vomit.

I will probably not let myself become very skinny again as it was a horrific experience and health should be on top of everyone's list. No one should tell us how we should handle our body or even change ourselves. We should be the one to know what is good for us.

STEPS I HAVE BEEN DOING OVER THE YEARS

1. EXERCISE REGULARLY

   Exercising can benefit you in many things such as better lifestyle, healthier body and mind, being productive and feeling strong. I find exercising somehow a bit hard to follow at first as I work full time and most of the time, I would feel tired from work. In spite of that, I still managed to find some time to exercise at least three nights a week. I feel less stressful after releasing all the sweat and unwanted stress in my body. I feel like I am whole again and ready to conquer the world.

   However, as much as exercising is good, it is not for everyone. You must check with yourself or with your doctor about your body types and what exercises are a good fit for you.

   When I started going back to the gym, the gym offered me to have my body assessed. I did the 360 fitness test. It is a machine that scans your body and let you know your muscles, fats and core percentages. As it turned out, my core muscle and thighs muscles are my strengths, and my arms are my weakness. In that test, I was nearly going to be overweight, so immediately I knew what to focus on to get fit and healthy. Doing that test had helped me understand my body more and what exercises are suitable for me to do.

2. YOGA MEDITATION

   Spending some time doing some yoga movement is a very positive way to meditate. Not only it helps calm your nerves and any tensions in your body, but it also makes your body flexible and helps you to have a proper posture. For those who work in an office and have to sit all day will experience their neck feeling stiff and their back feeling uncomfortable. That is because we spend so much time sitting, and eventually, we forget to adjust our posture, hence adding to our stress.

   Yoga has been such a big help for me and my back problem. I was a sloucher since I was a kid. I have never really improved my posture, not since I started doing yoga. It has helped me to remind myself to straighten my back from time to time. I would go and walk around from time to time and do a bit of stretching while at work. Stretching is good as it allows our blood to circulate and to avoid having blood clots.

3. DRINKING MORE TEA

   Tea is an excellent way to start a healthier lifestyle. However, tea consisting of caffeine-free are healthy ones. Drinking excessive of teas are not good though as your body will rely on it daily. I only drink one tea bag a day for five days a week, for instance. I do not want to overdrink tea as I don’t want my body to rely on tea so much that would lead me to be immune to it that will no longer take any effect on a sleepy kind of day when I most need it.

   Tea such as ginger tea helps me with my respiratory and green tea helps me with bowel movements.

   I got my tea from 'Teapigs' as they use real leaves and the flavours are definitely there. When I dip my tea temple into my cup for a few seconds, I can already taste the delicious tea. Also, the tea temples are biodegradable. Check out their website to find out more.

   Teapigs - https://www.teapigs.com/

4. LESS ALCOHOLIC DRINKS

   I used to be an alcoholic before. I drink almost every day in my early adult years. I was stressed and depressed, and alcohol was my way to forget all my problems. That was bad. However, I was fortunate to be able to stop that. I feel a lot better, not drinking as much as I did.

   The reason why I stop my binge drinking was because of my job. When I went back to teaching, I was no able to drink as much as I used to. It has helped me change my lifestyle and to handle stress in a lot different way. I don't see alcohol as my way to de-stress.

   I still drink occasionally, and I find it more enjoyable now that I don't do it very often. However, I don't like having a hangover, who does anyways?

5. AT LEAST 7-8 HOURS OF SLEEP PER DAY

   Studies show that sleeping for 7-8 hours a day is the standard, and it will help us survive the day while at work. I try my best to follow that. Having enough sleep also helps our memory and be more attentive during the day.

   However, I sometimes find it hard to survive the day without yawning or falling asleep. I believe a lot of people suffers from that as well. The problems are usually what we do before we go to sleep. We should avoid any electronic devices such as using mobile phones or laptop while at bed may disrupt our sleeping mode. Some food and drinks such as caffeine and chocolate or even eating a full meal while getting to bed can affect our sleep mode too.

   To have a good sleep, make sure to make yourself relax, make your bedroom comfortable and no lights as much as possible. Drinking a cup of chamomile tea can also be of help with your sleep.

WORKING OUT IS NO EASY THING

When I see people working out in social media or when I watch tips from workout experts, it seems so easy, but it is not. When I went back to the gym in 2017, I struggled so much. My stamina was weak. My only source of exercise in the past was dancing, and pretty much that’s the only thing I did. I am not a sporty type of person, nor do I do any sports at all. Starting was not easy. I had to train myself and learn everything from the instructors.

Exercising needs a lot of self-motivation and commitments too. You have to make time to make yourself move around, and you can’t work out when you are too exhausted from work also because you will make yourself even tired and probably get sick from it. Eating and sleeping well are also another way to live healthily.

One thing I know for sure about working out is that it gets slightly better after some months of continuous workout. You will begin to feel that your tolerance for the intense workout will get higher and higher and the more you will be pushing yourself to do more laps and push up counts.

WATCHING WHAT YOU EAT

To live a healthy lifestyle, one must eat healthily too. Eating the wrong things can cause some deflation on the whole process. Excessive eating of junk food while working out, for instance, is not good as the calories that you lose from working out will go on waste in exchange of the amount of junk food that you consume.

I don't watch out what I eat in the past. I didn't care much about what I eat. I like to eat whatever I want at any time. It doesn't matter if I just finished working out. That was easy because I was younger, and my metabolism was fast back then, so I lose those fats quite quickly. However, the older I get, my metabolism is getting slower; hence, fats do stay in your system without proper care.

So what's so wrong about fats? It's nothing in general as long as you balance it off. We all need fats in or body system. There are two types of fats - the good and the bad ones. The good fats, for example, are avocados, dark chocolate, whole eggs, fatty fish, yoghurt, nuts and cheese. These are healthier to consume. Bad fats, on the other hand, are not so good to have, but we all need to have them from time to time to keep our nutrition well balance. The bad fats consist of junk food and processed food.

MY TRANSFORMATION

Over the years, my body weight has been shifting. From thin to chubby to thin again to chubby. It's like a cycle where it keeps changing depending on my lifestyle. I would say my lifestyle is a lot stable now. Although I am still stressed from work, I am more aware of my health and fitness. I take the time to detox and to exercise regularly.

As you can see, my transformation in the above image. It took me many years to finally settle into my current size and weight. Now I weigh 53kg, which is the right weight for my size and age.

I struggled to gain weight, and I have also experienced a hard time losing those weights and to finally decided to get fit.

My bodyweight journey will not stop here. I will continue to live a healthy lifestyle and discover myself more mentally and physically.

I have recently taken a DNA test for Diet and Fitness from 'Circle DNA'. I bought the vital package mainly focusing on diet and fitness. My result should be out soon. I will be sharing it as soon as I acquire my results.

I wish this blog has been of help. Just remember that you should change for yourself and not to for other people. You may treat other people's judgement as an inspiration to do and live better, but never do it for them entirely. Body shaming should be condemned, but in the world that we are living in is quite impossible. However, we can prevent that by not allowing ourselves to be affected by their words. We also shouldn't judge others.

If you have any questions or would like to share your experiences or thoughts, feel free to leave a comment below.

Yours Truly,

Michelle Chan

The Perks of Doing Things Alone

Most people might think that doing things alone may seem lonely and depressing. Dining in a restaurant alone or going to a spa without your girlfriends may look friendless in many people’s eyes. However, for some people it is quite the opposite as doing things alone can be awesome and enjoyable to many people, like me.

Many people have a fear of doing things alone and trust me, that’s normal as I do have that fear, and it took me many years to fully understand that doing things alone is actually alright. Sometimes we all need that space and time for ourselves, away from all those judgemental eyes.

ACCEPTING THAT BEING ALONE IS OKAY

Here’s the thing people! Before you start doing things alone wholeheartedly, you must first accept that being alone is okay. I know it is hard at the beginning, but like almost everyone else, I struggle too. We are human beings, after all. We all feel insecure from time to time.

How do you start accepting that being alone is okay? Read the tips below to find out how.

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS 

Here are some questions to consider and to ask yourself once and for all if being alone is really for you as much as I recommend people to do things alone. However, it isn’t for everyone.

Ask yourself the following:

• You need a haircut. Would you stop yourself from going to the salon just because no one is free to go with you?

• You need to get a massage so severely,  but your friends are pre-occupied. Would you resist a restful hour in the massage place where you can barely speak to your friend anyway?

• You want to watch this movie, but sadly no one wants to watch it. Would you wait for the DVD copy to come out or wait till it shows online instead of watching the movie you waited for so long while it’s out in the cinema?

• You want to attend a class, but none of your friends or relatives has the same interest as you. Are you going to stop yourself from attending the course and miss the chance to learn and gain something simply because you don’t want to go to the class alone?

Now, here are some answers to those questions:

• You need a haircut.

First of all, you don’t need anyone to accompany you. All you need is yourself to be there in the salon and know what kind of hairstyle or hair colour you want to get. The hair stylist and the magazines will keep you company and entertain you if you worry about being bored while waiting.

• You need a massage.

Trust me the mere reason why spa or massage places exist is for people to have relaxation moment. Some quiet moment is what you should be focusing, so don’t worry about going there alone because you’ll get to have some peaceful and quiet moment in the spa.

• You want to watch a movie.

The answer is simple; just go for it even if you watch it yourself. The most important thing is for you to watch the movie that you like and what you’ve been waiting for a long time.

• You want to attend class.

Remember this, you are learning a new skill or hobby for yourself and not for anybody else so don’t think that going to classes alone is embarrassing or awkward because a lot of people do those kinds of things these days.

CHALLENGING AND DISCOVERING YOURSELF WHILE DOING THINGS ALONE

There are many things you can develop and discover about yourself while being alone. You will learn to deal with situations and take matters on your own, which will make your wiser. Doing things alone will make you brave, and it allows you to feel good about yourself. We don’t need a company all the time. We can all learn to have fun alone, and yes, there are plenty of things we can do alone that will make us feel satisfied. We can all learn how to be happy doing things alone.

12 THINGS TO DO ALONE

• PAMPER TIME AT A SPA OR SALON

  Not only it can be peaceful, but you can take as much time as you want in a spa or a salon without having to think how long your friend or boyfriend will have to wait for you to finish.

• GO SUNBATHING AT THE BEACH

  Don’t you ever wish that you could just read the book that has been pilled up in your shelf alone and not having someone talking to you while you read? If you don’t enjoy reading, how about spending a me-time on the beach alone while you relax under the sun?

  I have tried going to the beach alone. At first, it was awkward, but I’m quite surprised to see other people sunbathing alone at the beach too, and that made me feel less conscious of being alone there.

• GO FOR YOGA CLASSES

  Let’s admit this, not everyone does yoga, and not everyone has the time for it. Going to yoga classes on your own can reward yourself a significant amount of smile and relaxation. Anyways, you are not there to chat with your friends anyways; you are there to do movements and to mediate, hence being peaceful.

• HAVE A SHOPPING DAY

  Going shopping on your own can buy you a lot of time to do whatever you want to do and to go wherever you want to go. You hold the time, and you can be all fuzzy as much as you want because no one will be there to whine about how you are taking such a long time trying on different clothes.

• BRUNCH OR TEA TIME IN YOUR FAVOURITE RESTAURANT

  The idea of dining alone can be scary, but it can be surprisingly nice as well. Imagine this, you can order whatever you like, and you can take as much time as you need to devour the food — exploring food by yourself sounds pretty exciting.

• LEARN TO COOK A NEW DISH

  Make use of your kitchen at home and learn to cook a new dish during your free time or whenever you feel like it. Learning on your own not only help you discover things but it makes you more independent, and you get to develop your taste palette as there won’t be anyone to taste the food you’re cooking but yourself so you also get to trust yourself even better, hence you feel more confident.

• TRAVEL SOLO

  It feels good to travel solo because it gives you the chance to do the things you want to do without discouragement. Travelling solo has its advantages and disadvantages, and I believe that it is not for everyone. However, it is good to try and see it for yourself. You might be surprised by the results.

• WATCH YOUR FAVOURITE MOVIE AT THE CINEMA

  Watching a movie in a cinema on your own can be nice because you won’t have any disruptions. No one will be talking to you, and no one is going to be there asking you questions about the movie. Plus you get to devour that popcorn just to yourself!

• JOIN A VOLUNTEER PROGRAM

  If you are the type who likes to help people, doesn’t mind helping people whom you have never met and if you have the time to do it, then volunteering should be on your to-do list. Another advantage would be you get to meet new people and explore different cultures.

• GO FOR A HIKE

  Exploring the wild on your own can be challenging and a bit scary, but it makes you wiser and independent. Can you imagine yourself navigating your way on your own?

• LEARN A NEW HOBBY

  Learning and exploring a new hobby from time to time can help you discover yourself better. You’ll never know what you are capable of doing until you’ve tried it yourself.

• GO FOR A JOG

  Going for an early morning jog is not just good for your physical health, but it’s an excellent way to start your day well. Embrace the fresh air early in the morning.

MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

Honestly, I was very much afraid to do things alone. I feel embarrassed about going to a restaurant alone or go to a spa by myself. It took me many years to have the courage to do things alone finally. My very first alone experience was when I wanted to watch a horror film back in 2012 called 'The Eye 3D'. No one else wanted to watch it with me. As a horror fan, I pushed myself to watch the film alone. There were only a few people in the cinema, and I sat alone. It was scary and having someone to accompany me would probably have made me feel less frightened, but I am glad that I did it alone.

I enjoy spending time alone. I used to take it for granted. I always thought that being alone is too lonely and not something very cool to share with people when I was growing up. As an adult, I learnt to do things more independently. It feels good to able to face and overcome my fear of doing things alone. I care about what other people might think of me and eventually, I just grew out of it, and I started to care less.

Let me share one funny story. I was dining in a Japanese ramen restaurant somewhere in Manila alone. When I entered the restaurant, the staff asked me, "Table for two, miss?" so I replied, "No, table for one, please." Right when I finished my meal and asked for the bill, one of the staff asked me, "Miss, why are you eating alone?" So I replied jokingly, "Oh my boyfriend ditch me for lunch. Nah I'm just kidding. I'm here to shop around by myself." Her reaction was priceless because I think she might not have seen many people spending time alone in a restaurant; it must be rare for her. Who knows, I might have inspired her at some point.

For almost two years, I've been doing many things on my own. My first step was joining the gym. I had first joined the gym when I was in high school but I went with my best friend and I also never go to the gym without her. It was a waste of plenty of money. Finally, I join the gym again in late 2017 on my own. I go to the group classes with full of strangers. Honestly, it feels good. I get to decide what lessons I want to attend, and when I want to workout in my most convenient schedule. I also get to learn to motivate myself from going to the gym.

My second step was spending the entire afternoon in a shopping mall. Most of the time, I do shopping myself, but I have never stayed in a big mall on my own before. That was probably the first time and not going to be the last time. I enjoyed it a lot. I went to so many shops and took my time to pick the right things for me to bring home. Although carrying those shopping bags myself was a little bit of a hassle, but it was all worth it.

My third step was going to the beach alone. As mentioned earlier, I felt awkward. I was very close to leaving the beach and forgot about the challenge. However, something changed my mind from leaving. It was the people at the beach, more like the solo beach-goers inspired me that it was okay to do sunbathing alone and so I did. It was a very unforgettable experience, and I would love to do that again.

YES! I definitely watch the sunrise alone. This happened in my Cambodia trip in 2017. Although I was not alone in this trip, but I roam around the famous Angkor Wat on my own and watched the sunrise myself too. It was beautiful and peaceful. I took my sweet time to find the perfect spot for me to sit and to watch the sunrise.

Now before I end this blog, I want to say a few more words. I know it takes a lot of courage and braveness to do things alone, especially for those who are not used to being alone. Instead of living in fear, why not just fight it and start doing the things that you like without having to wait for anyone else to do it with you. I did that for many years, and I wish that I could've changed that earlier, but I believe that nothing is too late. It's better now or never.

I genuinely hope that this blog inspires you, beautiful people. If you have any questions or if you are looking for recommendations, then feel free to leave me a comment. I will be more than happy to help.

Yours Truly,

Michelle Chan

How Well Do You Know Your Chinese Roots?

The question, “How well do you know your Chinese roots?” is always the question I ask myself whenever I attend a family event or when I encounter some festival that I am not fully aware. I have always wanted to dig deeper into my Chinese roots. You see, I am Chinese by descent, but I was born and raise in the Philippines. Then, I moved to Hong Kong when I was about 14 years old. I was exposed to many different cultures when I was growing up and I never really have the chance to get to know my roots fully. I am 100% sure that I am not the only one who feels the way I do.

Therefore, I created this blog for people who are not so familiar with Chinese cultures and traditions, like me.

THE CHINESE CULTURES AND TRADITIONS

CHINESE RELIGION

Buddhism is the main religion for most Chinese people. People usually go to the temple to pray and to pay their respect and gratitude to the beloved Buddha. Some people also have a prayer room in their houses.

I grew up knowing two religions - Buddhism and Catholic. I was baptised in the Philippines when I was a baby. It is a requirement for anyone who is born in the Philippines to be baptised. I was not pressured to choose any religion while growing up. Honestly, I go to the temple more than I visit the church. It's just that I feel more connected with Buddhism.

CHINESE CUISINES

Chinese food is not like any other cuisine. From the menu, you can already see plenty of interesting dishes in the pictures. Chinese food tastes flavourful and satisfying. It is light and not something you get tired of eating. Chinese dishes consist of a lot of key ingredients such as garlic, chilli, ginger, bell pepper and soy sauce. Stir-fry dishes are probably the most common cooking style in this cuisine.

CHINESE ARTS AND CHINESE OPERA

Chinese arts include Chinese calligraphy, pottery, paintings, sculptures, embroidery, bonsai and Chinese literature.  

Chinese opera started during the Tang Dynasty (618-907). Performers are dress in beautifully made and colourful silk fabric costumes, extreme, exaggerated and lots of face painting mostly in white colour. This opera also includes a lot of dances, talking, folk music and instrument like the gong. 

I have never watched a Chinese opera live. However, I would love to watch it one day.

CHINESE CLOTHING AND COLOR SYMBOLISM

The traditional Chinese clothing for women is the Cheongsam. It is an item of a beautiful garment with a straight collar, slits on both sides of the dress and it will show a woman's figure with some sophistication. For the men, Changshan is traditionally worn by the gentlemen. It is a tunic that is long. It is said to be comfortable to wear. 

I have never worn a Cheongsam before, and I would love to try and wear one hopefully in the next Chinese Lunar New Year.

CHINESE MEDICINE

Typically Chinese people use herbal medicines, acupuncture and tai chi as treatment.

Acupuncture uses sterile needles to be attached to one person's body. Be mindful that this treatment should and only done by an experienced and professional acupuncturist.

Tai chi is generally safe and it helps improves your body and mind.  

I had personally drunk herbal medicines when I had skin allergies and cold fever in the past. It had worked for me, and it is useful.

CHINESE WEDDING

Chinese style wedding is probably one of the elegant yet expensive weddings in the world. An engagement party will happen after a proposal where the wed partners will have to bow to the elders including grandparents being the oldest followed by the parents, uncles, aunts, godparents and relatives who are older than them. Red packets, gifts, jewellery and clothes will be handed out to the partners as wedding presents. 

The wedding date must consult with a master by referring to the divination guide and almanac. It is important for Chinese people to pick the right time to avoid any bad luck. 

Red is usually the wedding theme colour in a traditional Chinese wedding. It signifies love, prosperity and joy. 

Before the wedding, there will be a traditional tea ceremony where the couple offers teas to their elders. After the wedding, the newlyweds need to visit the groom's family's home the very next day. Three days later, the newlyweds will need to visit the bride's family's home.

CHINESE BIRTHDAY

In the Chinese calendar, we count the age a bit different. When a new baby is born, the age of that baby is already calculated as one year old precisely on the day the baby is born. For example, I am 28 years old when referring to the regular calendar but I am 29 years old when referring to the Chinese calendar. Also, all Chinese people have a Chinese birthday. Say I was born on 27th December, so I need to refer to the Chinese calendar to see when is my Chinese birthday.

Chinese people usually celebrate their birthdays with a bowl of longevity noodles - for long life. The birthday celebrant is typically the one paying the bill or treating the dinner. However, guests are also allowed to operate them or spend a few amounts too.

CHINESE FUNERAL

Many things are being prepared when a Chinese person dies. There is plenty of consideration and consultation to be made before holding a funeral service. First, family members have to consult with a master by referring to the almanac to oversee which date is the most suitable one to hold the funeral. A funeral is usually happening at the Funeral Home and rituals are being performed such as prayers, ceremonies and some Chinese musical instrument.

What a deceased person wears depends on the family’s decision. It could be clothes that were owned by the deceased or a brand new clothing. Guests are expected to wear something white or black colours of clothing. Colourful or bright colours are not appropriate to wear.

Chinese funerals usually last for many days. However, in this modern day, it is expected to continue from 1-5 days. At least one family member is expected to stay overnight at the funeral home to keep company with their deceased loved one.

Family members and guests will be asked to burn joss paper also known as ghost money to make sure that their loved one has enough prosperity in the afterlife. You will expect to see a lot of houses, cars, servants, appliances and clothing made from paper to be burn and deliver to the deceased one.

Guests are allowed to contribute any amount of money, flowers or any other offerings.

Chinese people usually go for cremation. During the journey to the cremation place period, a band is hired to play some loud music to keep the evil spirits away. A lot of prayers are to expect.

THE CHINESE CALENDAR AND ZODIAC SIGNS

THE CHINESE CALENDAR

The Chinese calendar is also known as Lunisolar Calendar. It is calculated based on astronomical observations of the sun and the moon’s movement. Usually, there will be 12 months in Chinese calendars. However, an extra month which is the 13-month exists when a leap year occurs. Leap year is usually added to the Chinese calendar every three years.

THE 12 CHINESE ZODIAC SIGNS

The Chinese zodiac is made up to 12 animal signs. The first animal is the rat, followed by ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat, monkey, rooster, dog and pig. Just like the horoscope, each animal sign portrays different traits, characteristics, personalities, strengths and weaknesses.

CHINESE FESTIVITIES

There are plenty of Chinese festivals being host every year. Chinese festivals are known to be colourful and full of life. Below is a list of Chinese festivals celebrated by Chinese people yearly. While reading, you can also do a quick checklist to see if you have done or observe any of these festivals.

CHINESE NEW YEAR

The Chinese Lunar New Year is the most important festivals for Chinese people. It is also known as the Spring festival. There is no set a date for Chinese new year as it always depends on the lunar calendar. Many people visit the temples to pray and offer some fruits and other delicacies. Fireworks and firecrackers usually happen during the Lunar New Year’s Eve. However, many places banned public firing of fireworks and firecrackers. In Hong Kong, people typically stay at home to watch the fireworks on the television or remain by the harbour while watching the fireworks up in the air live.

There are many things to be prepared before the festival such as buying new home stuff, snacks like chocolates, crackers and drinks for visitors to have when they come to visit your home. It is said to be that buying a new pair of shoes can bring people good luck in life. Many people pay a visit to the bank weeks in advance to stock up cash in 20s, 50s, 100’s, 500’s and some 1000’s to give away to people. These are called the red packets. It usually comes in a red envelope.

Sweeping or throwing out garbage and showering are not allowed on New Year’s Day as it can wash away good luck.

LANTERN FESTIVAL

Lantern festival brings families and friends together. This festival is to celebrate with plenty of colourful and artistic lanterns. Other activities include moon gazing, performing or watching lion or dragon dance performances, eating glutinous rice balls and lighting lanterns. Lantern festivals are also known for a reunion as it brings families together in a feast.

DRAGON BOAT FESTIVAL

This festival is one of the most important festivals for Chinese people. This celebration has been happening for over 2000 years. This festival is dedicated to the patriotic poet, Qu Yuan who drowned himself in a river on the 5th day of the 5th Chinese lunar month. The villagers tried to save him or to recover his body but failed. It is said to be that villagers threw sticky rice dumplings to feed the fishes in the river so they will not eat his body.

The activities include dragon boat racing, lion and dragon dance, health-related customs and eating sticky rice dumplings.

The wooden dragon boats are designed and shaped in the form of a Chinese dragon, and about 30-60 people can board the boat to paddle it. It is said to be that people who join the boat racing need to undergo intensive training months before the competition. The winning team will have good luck and joyful life in the following year.

MID-AUTUMN FESTIVAL

This festival is also known as the Moon festival. On the night of the festival, the moon is at its roundest and brightest. People can buy traditional mooncakes in bakeries and cake shops. Ice cream mooncakes are also available in many shops during this festival. Giving out mooncakes to families and friends symbolise that they wish them a long and fruitful life.

CHING MING FESTIVAL

This festival falls during the third lunar month. People go to cemeteries, temples or graveyards to pay their respect to their loved ones and their ancestors. Many Chinese people will burn joss paper as offerings to their ancestors to use in the afterlife.

CHINESE VALENTINES DAY

Yes! That’s right, Chinese also has their own Valentines day. It usually lands on the 7th day of the 7th lunar month. During this festival, people in love pays a visit to the temple to pray for their love. Single people will see a matchmaker in hope to find their destiny.

HUNGRY GHOST FESTIVAL

This festival happens on the 7th month in the lunar calendar. During the ghost festival, the souls of the dead are believed to roam around the living people. A lot of offerings are to be seen around the streets, outside of houses to offer the souls of the dead. There are also a lot of precautions to be followed during the ghost month. Offending the dead souls would not be pleasant as this might bring bad luck.

In some places, Chinese operas are being shown live indoor and outdoor with plenty of empty seats in the front rows. They were said to be reserved for the dead souls so they can enjoy watching the performance. Everybody is welcome to attend the show, make sure not to sit on the front row seats.

SUMMARY OF CHINESE SUPERSTITIONS AND ETIQUETTE

So here is a list of some Chinese superstitions and etiquette (not in order). While reading, do a quick checklist too.

• Always greet or address the eldest or the most senior person first.

• Take off your shoes when entering someone’s home unless it is not required.

• Don’t leave chopsticks upright in your food. If you do this by accident, make sure to apologise sincerely.

• Don’t use your chopsticks to take food. Use the serving ladles or chopsticks to get food.

• Always give gifts or red packet with two hands and same for receiving them.

• Don’t give anyone with the number four. Four in Chinese means death, so it is not a good symbol to give to anyone.

• Always be on time. Punctuality means everything for a lot of Chinese people.

• When writing to someone, avoid writing with a red pen as red ink symbolises negative feelings.

• Chinese people are conservative people so showing PDA (Public Displays of Affection) is not acceptable and should be avoided.

• Avoid being too touchy with other people. Only do it to someone you know very well.

• Never disrespect the elders or anyone older than you.

• Number 8 or any numbers to do with 8 is considered lucky.

• Nails or toenails should not be cut at night because it brings problems.

• Never point at the moon with your finger.

• Make sure that your bed is facing a wall and not a door because when a bed is facing a door, you are allowing any evil forces to enter.

Writing this blog has helped me get to know my Chinese roots and made me realise that I have to do more like a Chinese person. If you have any other information that you wish to add, feel free to let me know by leaving a comment below.

Yours Truly,

Michelle Chan

Things You Probably Didn't Know About Introverts

Being an Introvert isn't easy or should I say, it could be tough especially we live in a cruel society. Introverts are often misunderstood, disregard and judge which lead to many misconceptions. Many people often misunderstood our silence and how we don't mind spending more time alone. We have our reasons and if you are curious enough, you may continue to read this blog. Before I forget to mention, there are actually plenty of famous celebrities, successful and world leaders that are Introverts. Yes, you read the right thing. You may search "Famous people who are Introverts" in google.com if you don't believe me. I'm not bluffing. I'm just as surprised as you are!

So why did I decide to write a blog about Introverts? The answer is very simple for I am an Introvert and I'm not ashamed to admit that. However, what really inspire me in writing this blog was when I read some articles about Introverts when I was figuring out things about myself. I felt that I should be able to write or more like open up and let people understand why Introverts act the way we are and as much as we may appear cold or snobbish, we are actually nice people. It was such a relief to me after I read those useful and informative articles about Introverts. Majority of the things that I have read were accurate and it applies to me. 

1. I EXPRESS MYSELF BETTER IN WRITING

The easiest way for me to express myself is through writing. I feel like I can express myself better and clearer in writing. You see I am not much of a vocal person in front of a huge crowd unless of course I am required to do public speaking. I write more than I speak.

2. PERSONAL TIME IS EVERYTHING

One thing I love about being an Introvert is that I don't mind being alone at all. Having to have personal time after spending many hours surrounded by people is probably the best therapy for us Introverts. Personal time can be very fulfilling and it gives us the time to think about stuff that we probably can't think when with people due to distractions. Alone time makes us feel most at peace.

3. WE ARE NOT ANTI-SOCIAL

Let me clarify this, Introverts are not anti-social. In fact, we enjoy socialising, but not too extreme - like becoming BFF with every single one in a party or social gathering. We love having people around and we love initiating interesting conversation with people. We are also open-minded people, well for most of us at least. 

However, there may be a moment where you might find us Introverts quiet but listening to people talk instead. Don't take us in a wrong way, we are just taking a break from socialising and although we love to initiate in conversation, sometimes we actually prefer to listen to people talk and somehow talk back through our minds. That is because socialising can be somewhat exhausting. Everyone deserves a break from time to time if not all the time.

4. CRITICIZED AS BEING TOO QUIET OR RESERVED

Because of our silence and lack of voice, we are often criticized as too quiet and too reserved. Believe it or not, we are sort of used to hearing people say that and we know that is not true. Introverts are actually shy people, but not quiet and reserved people. We just prefer not to start a conversation with someone we barely know. 

Let me share something about myself. My friends and including my boyfriend all thought that I am a quiet person when they first met me, but after spending some time chatting with me, they came to a conclusion that they were truly wrong because I am not a quiet person. I talk a lot, I talk about anything and sometimes it's even hard to shut me up. I am a shy person though I must admit. 

5. ASSUMING AND KNOWING THINGS AHEAD OF TIME

I don't see anything wrong with knowing things ahead of time because I like to be prepared for what has to come. I don't fancy surprises and to me, surprises can make me flustered. I tend to assume things because that is what my brain is for, I think a lot like a lot of lot. 

6. WE DON'T GET BORED WITH OUR OWN COMPANY

Frankly speaking, I don't mind or I don't feel bad being alone. In fact, I enjoy my own company and I don't get bored with myself. I get to do things myself and without anyone judging or observing me. 

I can either use my phone for hours, play games or watch movies for the entire day, finish a book and even facial time with myself without feeling bored because I always find something to do without relying on others. So in other words, I am the type who don't mind staying at home at all.

7. SOMETIMES WE ENJOY THE ATTENTION

Introverts also enjoy attention not just extroverts. We need to feel special too from time to time. We need to feel that we are being appreciated despite our shy personality, we are still human beings with the need for attention. However, we don't like having too much attention. A simple thank you gesture of any sort will be enough to make our day.  

8.  WE ARE ACTUALLY A PEOPLE PERSON AND WE ENJOY MEETING NEW PEOPLE

I get very excited when I know I'm meeting new people even though I don't normally show much expression that I am excited. I won't go like, "Woaaaah! Yaaay! New people!" that kind of expression. I would rather let it go with the flow once I meet that person. I don't try too hard to make a good impression, though I believe in first impression and personal connection.

I am also a people person because I actually like surrounding myself with people especially those who are close to me. I like entertaining people too.

9. SURPRISES ARE NOT MY BIGGEST FAN

I don't fancy surprises. To me, surprises can be overwhelming and awkward. I dislike being unprepared because I like to know things ahead of time so I can prepare myself for what has to come rather than getting shocked and shit face. 

Just because I said I don't like surprises, doesn't mean that I would hate anyone who plans to surprise me. I just prefer not to deal with surprises, but if it happens then it happens!

10. TOO MUCH SOCIALIZING CAN BE EXHAUSTING

Think about talking non-stop for hours with either the same group of people or worse with numerous kind of people. It can get pretty exhausting and it will suck out all of your energy. Some people enjoy or don't mind doing this because they're born social butterflies and whilst for introverts too much socializing can be pretty tiring. 

Toilet breaks or checking on our phones are our ways to conserve or regain our energy,  

11. WE ARE OFTEN NOT GIVEN PROPER RECOGNITIONS

We introverts are silent workers. We prefer doing things through actions instead of talking or bullshitting. Because we are silent workers, we are often not given proper recognition from neither work or school.

In my 8 years of work experience, I only had one manager who had seen my potential and saw me as a leader which led me to my very first promotion. I don't like to brag about how much I work, at least not through words, but I show my hard work through my actions. 

12. WE ARE VERY GOOD OBSERVERS

We like to observe before we say anything. It is because we make decisions very carefully and we want to see what other people might say first, even though we already have the answers in our genius mind (JK!). We are good at noticing the smallest details and things that not a lot of people care to see. 

13. I DON'T LIKE PICKING UP ANY STRANGERS OR UNKNOWN CALL

I can't explain why, but I'm terrified of picking up unknown calls or calls from someone I barely talk to. I think I'm just anxious about the fact that I don't know what to talk about or that I think too much about what the caller is going to tell me. Work calls, for instance. 

Don't get me wrong though, I love talking on the phone. I can spend hours over the phone just chitchatting about anything, but of course, I only do that with my closest people. 

14. WE LIKE TO DO THINGS OUR OWN WAY

We introverts are full of ideas. That is because we spend more time observing and thinking in our own world. There are many things that we prefer to do many things or everything our own way. It's not because we don't like your method or ideas. It's just that we have our own way of handling things and we do what we make us feel comfortable. We can be quite stubborn at times, but we do listen and follow the rules when needed. 

15. I LEARN TO LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF

Last but not the least, I finally learn how to love myself or should I say accept myself first. It's not easy at first, but I eventually learn more about myself. I went on a deep research about why I am the way I am until I get to really know myself. We never really stop discovering yourself and every day is a new day and a chance for us to learn something about yourself even more. 

Frankly speaking, It took me many years to finally realized what is happening to me. I always knew that I am a shy person and I have fear of talking to people. At first, I hated how I was before and I had many desires to change that disgusting habit of mine, however, I let fear get to me for many years. Finally, I learn to accept who I am and I try to improve it slowly but surely. I also want to say Thank you to those who have been giving me the courage to face my fear and for accepting me for I am. 

Being an Introvert isn't a bad thing. Being an Introvert isn't a incapability or disability. Being an Introvert is awesome. It is not our fault if we were born shy or having fears of talking to people in general. We shouldn't let anyone stop us from fulfilling what we want to achieve in life. We may have to work extra harder in this cruel society, but always remember that a good and smart people would notice you before you even have to show or prove anything. Just be you and love yourself. 

Yours Truly,

Michelle Chan