This blog is mainly dedicated to my favourite human, Ryan and our relationship as we turn six years this year. We just turn six years in September of this year to be precise. Now, the reason why I decided to write a blog about us is that I want to do something different this year. I usually create an anniversary album each year. However, I think the five giant anniversary albums should be enough, and it's time to do something different. I would like to express my gratitude and appreciation to Ryan through words and on my very own website.
Worry not as this is not going to be a sappy and lousy kind of love story. Proceed reading this blog if you are curious or want to be nosy. :D
THE BEGINNING
Every relationship has a story. Every love has its beginning. So how did we started our story?
We started off as friends. When we first met each other, we seriously did not think that we would eventually end up with each other. We became good friends and we go out for drinks and party for more than a few occasions. All that drinking and partying eventually led us to each other. We were partying pretty intensely one night, just the two of us. We both were so drunk that I went home without my bag. I lost my phone, wallet, keys, lipstick and my favourite earphone. There were all inside my bag at the time. I lost everything. Ryan wakes up nowhere with only 1 shoe with him. Despite this unfortunate event, we remembered one thing. We kissed. We couldn’t forget about the kiss.
That one kiss turns out to be the beginning of our adventure together.
WE ARE VERY DIFFERENT
Ryan and I are very different from each other. We have different likes, dislikes, hobbies, favourite types of music and movie genres, expressions towards numerous situations and even different ways of handling things. Despite these differences, we still manage to get along well with each other. We learn how to adjust ourselves and understand each others' differences.
We never thought that us being different is going to be a problem at all. In fact, I have what he doesn't have and he has what I don't have. For instance, I'm a meticulously organized person, and he is the least organized person. He doesn't mind chopping or slicing vegetables, and I hate doing them. I don't eat pork, but he loves eating pork a lot.
SOMETHING WE HAVE IN COMMON
When I said different, I don't mean totally 100% different. We do have something in common too. We have some common interests such as we both love hiking, trekking, camping and drinking. We both have a big desire for travelling and to see the world one step at a time.
We both are competitive too, and we often try to compete with each other and see who is smarter or who is a better player when it comes to games. We both love doing exciting things. We also don't mind not seating together when we are with friends. We are not the clingy types. We give each other some space from time to time.
WE COMPROMISE EACH OTHER A LOT
Despite having some differences, we do a lot of comprising and lots of never-ending understandings too. Sometimes when it gets too frustrating, we end up just laughing it out instead of making our differences a big deal. Although I must admit, Ryan does a better job at compromising. I, on the other hand, have more pride and I would only give in when I am calmer or when I finally realize that I am just being childish.
I wouldn't say Ryan is the boss or I am the boss in our relationship. We both make decisions together. One of us might have some ideas, but at the end of the day, we still think and decide together. We respect each other a lot, and we value each others' thoughts and opinions.
WHY WE NEED EACH OTHER
I used to think that I will not meet a man that will make me feel safe and loved. When I met Ryan, it wasn't love in the beginning. We started off as friends and eventually, we fell to each other. We are both very different people, and we learned how to respect our differences. We can help each other with our differences, and there are many times that we truly need each other because of our differences.
Ryan and I have been through a lot. We face many problems and challenges in life. Together we face it all. We have seen each other in our lowest and most vulnerable times. We have also celebrated many good news and blessings. We were there for each other and together we witness how much we have grown as a better human being than we used to be.
It is like we are each others' rock. Without working as one, we can’t get anything done. I like this relationship because we believe that it takes two people to make a relationship work and make it stronger.
SIX YEARS
Now that we have reach number six, our bond has grown stronger, and it will continue to grow deeper. Reaching this far isn’t an easy work. It takes a lot of patience, unconditional love and respect, unstoppable hurdles, blessings and a lot of understandings to make this relationship work. I should probably say to make any relationship work.
I look forward to writing "Seven Long Roads" next year when we turn seven years.
Yours Truly,
Michelle Chan
