We live in a world in which people, every person that you meet will judge you for how you look, how you act, how you handle things, how you make decisions and what is your status in life. There are many people who are very hard to please and while there are only a few that are easier to please. But the point is, why does people care so much about being accepted, wanted and be the center of the crowd? Does pleasing people help us bring joy and peace in life? Do we need to feel wanted and accepted to be able to say we are successful? Why does status in life in general is so important to people?
I stand in the term of "Just be yourself". I genuiely believe that when you act and be yourself in front of many people, that is how you will truly gain the respect and the integrity that you really deserved. Meanwhile, pretending to be somebody else in order to please other people may bring dissatisfaction, unhappiness and empty within themselves.
Personally speaking, I grow up hearing many and different kinds of harsh words. Some of it comes from my own family, friends, co-workers and some people that i just met. All the harsh words that I have heard affected me a lot and it somehow made me lose my confidence. The good and positive thing about me is that even when I got hurt by the harsh words but I lifted myself up and help myself to bring my confidence back. I eventually learn how to ignore them or rather just chose to treat those harsh words as concerns or compliments to do a better job or be a better person. After all, I cannot please everybody.
I was judged by how I look. I look innocent and naive, people cheat, lie on me plenty of times and take advantage of my kindness. Eventually i figure out the truth and I learn my lesson on not to be so kind to people who only sees me as an object or somebody who only comes to me whenever they need something.
The thing is we cannot change how we look, whether or not we look kind or mean. A person shouldn't be judge by how they look. We should all get to know a person first before we judge them.
Yours Sincerely,
Michelle Chan
